Collecting Scraps of Light
the practice of gratitude as
a thank you note to life
For most of us, collecting scraps of light is one of the most important
spiritual practices we can undertake. It is our thank you note to life.
It is the positive side of what Buddhists call "dependent origination."
by Deborah Cooper
I see the way the chickadees
take turns at the feeder.
I watch a neighbor take
her husband’s hand.
I see the way the sun will find
the only interruption
in dark clouds
to toss this amber light
across the pines.
I see a row of cars
stop on the road
until the orange cat
has safely crossed,
then take off slowly, should
she change her mind.
I watch the way my brother
lifts our mother from
to the car,
the shawl he lays
across her lap.
I save up every scrap
because I know that it will take
each tiny consolation
to mend the world.
Collecting Light as a Gratitude Practice
The page began as a response to the sad old man about whom Dermot Kennedy so beautifully sings in "Moments Passed." Scroll down for the song. The original title of the page was "Sad Old Men Who Can't Let go of the Past."
A Sad Old Man Who Can't Let Go
The beauty of Kennedy's voice is worth listening to for its own sake. But the story is important, too. It is the story of an old man who pines away for a lost love of his youth - a love that he never gets over. The memory of this love is not exactly a scrap of light: it is a scrap of bondage. He cannot live in the present and has no hope for the future. If his life were turned into a theology, it would be called "The Theology of Pining."
I understood the man and also felt sorry for him. I also felt that he was self-absorbed: trapped inside his mind. I began to wonder what, if anything, might help free a person from a painful and enslaving self-absorption in which he was trapped. It occurred to me then, and occurs to me now, that a healing antidote just might be gratitude, understood as a state of mind and way of living.
I best admit that the grateful way of living does not come easily for me. I'd rather practice courage, or delight in beauty, or compassion, than gratitude. It makes me feel too....dependent. There's a voice in my head which says: "Thou Shalt Not be Dependent." Truth be told, I'm pretty sure its the voice of the devil: that is, the enemy of my better self. Still it is a powerful voice. I suspect that others hear it, too. We acquire it, in part, from a culture that over-emphasizes individualism and "merit" over gratitude. If we achieve something, to our culture says, we've done it on our own.
Dependent Origination Positive and Negative
And yet the Buddhist side of my life tells me that "dependent origination" (pratitya-samutpada) is at the very heart of reality. Everything originates in dependence on other things. Perhaps gratitude is a positive emotional response to dependent origination. And perhaps the opposite of gratitude, resentment, is a negative form of dependent origination.
Letting the past be past
There's another Buddhist theme that comes to mind as I think about the man who lives in the past: namely the theme of impermanence, of perpetual perishing. A willingness to let go of the past, to let the past be past, is itself a form of respect, even gratitude, for the past. It gives the past space to be itself.
And perhaps the practice of gratitude begins, for many, with collecting scraps of light, including light from the past, without holding on to it so tightly that it cannot become....past.
Jay McDaniel, 5/8/2018
A Sad Old Man Who Can't Let Go of the Past
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